Pink and Blue – week 4 review
By: Kristan Dooley
Yesterday was one of my favorite days serving at the Student Union ever! To watch our students respond to the challenged issued was overwhelming. I am so proud of each of you. Being willing to be vulnerable, open up and step out gives God the opportunity to step in and do BIG things in your life and our ministry. We are a family, my victory is your victory, is our victory, and is ultimately HIS victory. We serve Christ better together and we definitely fight holiness better together.
In case you missed this weekend @vineyardstudentunion here is a brief summary of the notes:
To the guys: Some of the best-kept secrets of your “girls”
1 – Her desire is often rooted in an emotional longing
2 – She is wired to be pursued
3- She is turned on by touch
If these three things are true, here are some simple ways you can help your Student Union girls experience victory in their pursuit for holiness.
1- Protect her from the emotional
a. Don’t say things you don’t mean just for the sake of saying them. She wants to be important, cherished and loved. She wants to be taken care of and accepted. Don’t lead her on with your words. Don’t talk about a “future” you aren’t sure exists.
b. Tell her she is important to Jesus. Don’t ever try to be the most important man in her life. Point her to the only one that can truly satisfy.
2- Don’t pursue her just for the sake of catching her
a. In fact, don’t pursue her at all unless you are ready to commit to something. Your pursuit without commitment is a tease that reels her in and messes with her mind. If you are unsure of what you want, then wait until you know. She is worth the wait, her mind worth protecting and her heart worth guarding
3- Stop touching her
a. Your flirty, innocent touches mean more than you could ever know to her. She reads into your hugs and connects herself to you in her mind. Feelings are developed without a proper invitation because girls are wired to respond to your touch
4- Pray for her
a. How often do you stop and pray for your sister as she pursues holiness in a world that teaches the opposite. Be her support. Go to battle for her. Pray for her heart, pray for her mind, pray for her strength
b. It is my belief that as you pray for her, not only will she be empowered, but also the way you see her will begin to change. She will inevitably become something you fight for and value the same way Christ values the Church.
To the girls: Some of the best-kept secrets of your “guys”
1. He is physical
2. He is visually stimulated
3. He finds the pursuit of the you stimulating
If these three things are true, here are some simple ways you can help your Student Union guys experience victory in their pursuit for holiness.
1. Protect him from the physical
a. He feels everything. Girls do things like “spooning,” “cuddling,” and “hugging” in order to feel loved. Those well-intended actions might possibly take him down a completely different path.
2. Dress to protect him
a. The woman’s body is a weapon to the average guy. Instead of drawing attention to his need for control, why not make the battle a little easier by covering yourself up. A guy notices how you dress. Dress to protect his eyes, his mind and ultimately his heart. Think about what you wear before you wear it. It doesn’t matter how cute it is if it leads to the moral failure of one of your guys.
3. Stop leading them on
a. You like to be pursued, which is great because the pursuit is a turn on for him, but don’t lead him on just because you like the way it feels to be chased. Don’t go there if you are not sure of what you want. It’s not fair.
4. Pray for him
a. Pray for his eyes, pray for his mind, and pray for his heart. Pray he become the man of God he is destined for. Pray he have the strength needed to walk away from the enticing calls of the world we live in. Pray he stand up for what’s right and lead the way.
b. It is my belief that as you pray for him, he will find strength and you will be changed. The way you see him will be different. The way you protect him will become important. The way you fight for him will be stronger.
The truth is we are family and families’ battle for one another. They pray hard prayers and make tough sacrifices. I am better because you are battling for me and we are all better when we battle for each other. Don’t rob one another of the promises God makes over your lives by making the battle harder. It’s hard enough already. Love each other enough to battle together. Be willing to do whatever it takes to launch your brother or sister in Christ to the destiny waiting before them.